willing participant

"If it happens once youre a victim, if it happens twice youre a willing participant"
My teacher said this today and I really couldnt agree more. She was referring to a girl in class that has been getting beat by her boyfriend for years. A few weeks ago she went out with a few girls and her boyfriend and one of the girls didnt like how he was acting so she called him out on it well that set him off and he beat her when they got home. Well she came to school with a huge black eye and everyone has been trying to get her to leave him and now she is finally doing so. The class helped her get rid of her animals so she wouldnt have to worry about relocating with them. Well she was late for class today and no one had heard from her over the weekend so we were worried about her but she did come in and nothing had happened but thats when my teacher said that quote. I have been trying to figure out a way to word that exact thing without saying you pretty much ask for it if you stay.
I have known a lot of women that have been beaten or abused by their boyfriends or husbands Ive actually seen it with my own eyes with my mom and I cant even explain how many times I have had that thought. It makes me so mad the first time when they decide to take them back but when it happens again and again I really cant feel bad or sorry for you when you walk around with a black eye or broken bones anymore. Its actually rather annoying. I mean no one can help you until you want to help yourself and if you keep going back then you dont want to help yourself so why would I want to waste my breathe and time on trying to help you?

Alright Im done on that subject Im getting pissed off just writting it and I dont want to be pissed off right now.

So I was watching this show called four weddings and its about four brides that go to each other's weddings and then rate them and the one with the highest points wins a honeymoon. Well this one lady made her bouquet out of recycled paper and she made all these different colored flowers it was really awesome actually. Then this other bride made her bouquet out of broches that she asked all her family members to get her it was even better then the recycled paper one. I loved those ideas I wonder if I could rip off one of those ideas or something similar for my wedding. haha ummm food for thought.

Well Im going to go now. Have a good night